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My Relationship with an Amazing Woman

June 12, 2017

|Mary Hurley and her son, Stephen, at the IDF Retreat in 2014.

By Barbara Meade

Many of you are familiar with the shock and disbelief of finding out a loved one is diagnosed with a primary immunodeficiency disease. That’s what happened to me almost 25 years ago. After multiple skin and lymph node infections with high fevers my son, Joseph, was finally diagnosed with Chronic Granulomatous Disease (CGD). It was confirmed by lab tests. I was a pediatric nurse at the time and had never heard of this diagnosis let alone know how to spell it. I had to have his doctor write it down for me. We didn’t know where to turn or who to contact for support and more information about this disease.

We were told, fortunately, that a doctor at Children’s Hospital in Boston was familiar with CGD and involved in interferon gamma trials (medicine given to help those with CGD). We met with this doctor to gain as much information as we could and to understand what the prognosis and plan would be. Joe immediately started on interferon gamma shots and sulfamethoxazole/trimethoprim along with other I.V. antibiotics. I was told Joe was one of only six people in New England at that time to be diagnosed with this rare disease. Needless to say, our whole family was numb with grief given this diagnosis. I wanted to connect with other patients or support groups, but I knew it would be difficult because CGD was so rare. I was advised to connect with a woman in California named Mary Hurley. She was reported as a contact who was very knowledgeable, supportive and involved with other patients and families with CGD. With no internet to search for her back then, I found her home phone number and reached out. That was when I first began my relationship with the amazing Mary Hurley.

Mary and her husband Alan created the CGD Association in 1982 after their two sons, Erik and Stephen, were born with CGD. The CGD Association’s mission was to provide emotional support to other patients and families and to educate physicians and other organizations of the diagnosis and treatment for CGD. They created a CGD medical library and distributed informational materials, booklets and guides, and sent out a quarterly newsletter to those who requested it. I remember anxiously waiting to receive and read the next edition of this newsletter. Mary also created a patient questionnaire to gather as much information as possible on every patient she knew with CGD. It was her own and the first CGD registry.

Alan describes his wife as someone who read all she could about CGD and in turn, became an “encyclopedia” for the disease. She attended worldwide medical symposiums to learn from the leading experts in the field, and although he described her as a shy woman, the incredible drive and determination that made Mary so special was clearly displayed when it came to CGD.

My conversations with Mary always gave me a feeling of incredible relief and comfort to talk to someone who had two sons and dealing with the same illness. I was always amazed at how much she knew and how much support and compassion she offered. She spent hours on the phone listening and offering guidance and support, not only to me, but to the hundreds of families she followed. Through the years, we spent quite a bit of time on the phone and connecting over email. Every time Joe got sick, which was often at times, I would contact Mary in order to get her advice on any new treatments and medications.

A few years after connecting with Mary, we both got involved with the Immune Deficiency Foundation (IDF). We met several times in person at the volunteer conferences that IDF sponsored, and then later at that national conferences. We both wanted to keep CGD a focus at these meetings and conferences. We looked forward to meeting up in person at these events not only to discuss CGD news and to network, but also to share what was going on in each of our own private lives. I remember her sharing stories of where she had traveled or where she would like to go on her next trip. She would also give me updates on what Erik and Stephen were involved with and how they were feeling.


Although she struggled for several years with cancer and suffered the loss of her eldest son, she never gave up trying to find a cure for CGD. With funding from the CGD Association, she donated it to support grants and research in order to find a cure. She was also an active member of the IDF Board of Trustees until she had to step down due to her illness.

The last time I spoke to Mary it was this past April. She had just come back from having a procedure to remove fluid from around her lungs. She was still looking forward to meeting up again at the IDF 2017 National Conference in Anaheim. Her family was planning on attending as well. When I heard the news a few weeks later of her passing, I was saddened. It seemed so soon after our conversation, but now I know we have a friend in a higher place. I’m sure she will continue to oversee that the cure for CGD is close at hand.

Mary, thank you for all you have done for our community. You will be missed by a great number of friends and family members in this community.

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