Living with primary immunodeficiency (PI) demands that you address healthcare needs and all too often, those demands can eclipse taking time to process and nurture your emotions. Because physical health and emotion are intertwined, and one impacts the other, it's crucial to take intentional steps to maintain your mental health as you move along in your PI journey.
“The Connection Between Mental and Physical Health,” an IDF podcast presented by Dr. John Seymour, explores the challenges faced by those diagnosed with PI and offers specific ways to navigate those hurdles and improve the strength of both body and mind.
A family therapist for more than 40 years focused on children, adolescents, and their families, Seymour has a wife and daughter with PI. He has served as an IDF volunteer for over two decades, recently retiring as a member of the IDF Board of Trustees. Throughout much of his time in clinical practice, university teaching (he is an emeritus professor and distinguished faculty scholar at Minnesota State College), clinical supervision, and research, Seymour has explored the concepts of resiliency and coping with chronic illness.
PI creates permanent stress in a person’s life, said Seymour, and causes pain, discomfort, and loss. The diagnosis requires a lifetime of medical monitoring and sometimes is accompanied by additional health conditions – all of which generate medical expenses. PI brings unpredictability because, at one moment, a person may feel fatigued, and later, they regain their energy. Disruption occurs not only in a person’s day but in the long term, causing uncertainty in starting a new job or school – and even in family planning.
One of the most challenging aspects of PI is the seeming invisibility of the disease.
“Often times PI is an illness where we don’t look like we’re incapacitated, but, on the inside, that person is very aware of being incapacitated, and it causes a lot of difficulty being around people who really don’t notice or understand how much you might be going through,” said Seymour.
When our body changes, so do our thinking, our feelings about ourselves, our behavior, and how we relate to other people, compounding the stress.
“We now feel like we not only have an illness to contend with, but relationship concerns to deal with, thought concerns, and behavior issues to contend with,” said Seymour.
The best way to approach the seemingly overwhelming cycle of physical health leading to poor mental health resulting in weakened relationships is to reduce risk factors and increase protective factors. Follow trusted sources of information pertaining to physical and mental health, create a self-care plan early on in diagnosis, and find trusted family members or friends who support you.
“Resilience is that powerful force we can muster within ourselves to get through challenging situations,” said Seymour.
Guidance for rebuilding mental health includes:
Improving mental health can begin with simple steps. Get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, engage in regular physical activity, seek consistent medical care, and participate in mindfulness and meditation. You can also prevent stress when you tune out the news, limit time around critical people, keep a journal, listen to music, and connect with loved ones virtually.
Finally, you may find that boosting someone else’s life will improve your own.
“No matter how much you are hurting, find ways to care for others. In caring for others, we connect with an important part of ourselves,” said Seymour.
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